Crashing Waves

In the mid 1990s, when I burst from the closet at 16 years old, waving my rainbow flag, I began my long journey out as a LGBTQ person. I was, all at once, alive for the first time in my life. I recall the moment when I finally allowed myself this identity. A weight was […]

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New memoir sheds light on egg donor experiences

I recently had the opportunity to read an early copy of the memoir Two Eggs, Two Kids: An egg donor’s account of friendship, infertility & secrets (Parasol Press LLC, 2015) by Alicia Young. At two different times, Alicia donated eggs to friends that were struggling with infertility, and each experience unfolded in a very distinct way. Alicia’s […]

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Mother’s Day Looms

When you are struggling to build your family, you don’t know when the painful pierces are going to strike. I do not mean injections or any other physical piercings related to fertility treatment. I mean the sudden emotional pierces. Sometimes I feel them literally in the area of my heart, sometimes in my head or […]

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The Very Human You

Someone recently asked me why I’m passionate about offering Reiki to women struggling with fertility. Here is my answer: at some point, you have been poked and prodded, had your blood drawn, absorbed statistics, and spoken clinically of your sex life enough to being feeling like a robotic avatar playing the game of your life. […]

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Accepting the Word Infertile: A Patient’s Perspective

April 19-25 is National Infertility Awareness Week #YouAreNotAlone Six months…six long months.  That’s how long it took us to accept the word “infertile.”  Accept the fact that we would never conceive with love alone. Our recipe for making a child was not going to be pure and simple, like everyone else.  Six months to accept our […]

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Painful awareness of otherness

April 19-25 is National Infertility Awareness Week #YouAreNotAlone I teach on two college campuses, so I’ve been hearing a lot of talk about microaggressions over the last year. Microaggressions are the tiny little pin-pricks, usually unintentional, thoughtless, or just causally mean, that over time, escalate into a painful awareness of otherness. The speaker rarely intends to […]

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A Marathon of a Journey: How Marathons and IVF are Similar

Why I Am Running The Boston Marathon to Shine Light on Fertility By: Katie O’Connor, Founder, Shine: A Light On Fertility April 19-25 is National Infertility Awareness Week #YouAreNotAlone I love to run, people who know me know I LOVE to run, especially marathons, it makes me ME! It gives me energy and strength and a sense […]

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Life with one fallopian tube

Every morning as I get ready for work I am faced with past mistakes looking back at me through the bathroom mirror. The scars leftover on my body burn into my sides as I curl on my mascara. Never did I think I would be in the situation I am in now; in fact, I […]

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Facing Gynecologic Surgery While Experiencing Infertility

Today’s post is written by Antonio Gargiulo, MD, Medical Director, Center for Robotic Surgery and a fertility expert in the Center for Infertility and Reproductive Surgery (CIRS) at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Massachusetts and the Center for Reproductive Care at Exeter Hospital in New Hampshire. Often my patients experiencing infertility need gynecologic surgery because […]

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Coping with Infertility as a Couple

As we approach Valentine’s Day this weekend, we understand that this can be as loaded a holiday for couples dealing with infertility as any other holiday landmine on the calendar. The Center for Reproductive Psychology offers their advice on how you can work together as a couple to get through this holiday and the many peaks […]

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